No wonder we sometimes feel confused.

I’m Peggy Haymes. I have a handful of official qualifications, like degrees, trainings and a license to do the work I do as a therapist.*

I’ve also spent over four decades listening to people in their confusion and their pain and helping them untangle the knots that keep them stuck.

I love seeing people letting go of what’s never served them, opening to new possibilities and finding better ways to do their work and live their lives. It’s a profound honor to see people find their way through the most confusing and disruptive journeys of their lives.

Maybe you’ve figured it out by now. I love talking about things that matter.

Join me.

• Master of Divinity, Master of Arts | Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor, Ordained Minister, Summit Certified Coach | Certificate in Guided Imagery, Yearlong Training in Virginia Satir’s therapy methods, Advanced training in Elisabeth Kubler-Ross’ tools for grief work

We’re told Emotional Intelligence is a great thing for our work and our lives (and it is.) Just start by paying attention to what you’re feeling.

But what if you don’t know what you’re feeling?

We’re told that the loss of a family member can be a life changing experience. But when you get back from your bereavement leave — (however short or long that is) — make sure you’re done with the messiness of grief and that you’re on track and focused.

How does that even work?

We’re told that gratitude is a powerful emotion capable of turning gray skies blue (and it is.) But what if you’re genuinely, deeply NOT grateful?

Do we just add that to all of the other feelings that we’re judging ourselves for having or not having?

And speaking of judging, will someone give us a syllabus for grieving so we can get the darn thing right because we are sure that we’re taking too long or struggling too much or just not doing something right.

It’s a puzzle for sure.

And I love working with puzzles.